Hey loves welcome back and happy Monday. So to start off the week I decided to get off my lazy butt and write a post. Coincidentally something happened this weekend involving my natural hair that I think warranted a post. It all started when I was on my way to the city on Saturday.
It was a bright gorgeous day with relatively no humidity to frizz or shrink up my hair so I decided to use the opportunity to wear it out.
My hair was in a stretched braid out which I placed in a topknot.
Let’s just say I was feeling myself.
So on to what happened. I was on a Bus to get to the main city. Now mind you where I live is about a 25mins commute to my destination. But then again I was feeling myself so no worries.
Being in a Caribbean country it is HOT so to relive this heat all windows in said bus were down and naturally my lucisious kinks where flowing ( ok more like whipping) in the breeze.
About 20 minutes into the drive I felt a tap on my shoulder. Turning around I saw a mature lady who proceeded to give me some natural hair ‘advice’.
“If you cornrow it down ‘tightly’ while wet and you unplait it, your hair will come out more curly like mine” She said gesturing a cornrowing motion with her hands.
She then proceeded to show me her hair which was indeed very curly.
HOWEVER…. I need to point out that this lady was mixed…i’m assuming from kalinago decent which is a race of people native to my country.
So I proceeded to patiently tell her
” My hair is Kinky so it does not curl as yours would..”
Before I could finish she interrupted me saying
“Yes if you do it properly it will curl!!”
At that point I had had enough in trying to explain myself(and the fact that my hair would need a lot more than just water and cornrows to curl)…so proceeded to smile and tell her that I would try it her way.
Looking satisfied she sat back down.
While I understand this lady was trying to help me at the same time the fact that she refused to try to accept what i was telling her about MY hair reallyyyy annoyed me.
Not to mention that if i simply wet my hair and cornrowed it then undid it id be dealing with a HOT MESS on my head.
Why do was as other women feel like its ok to give someone advice and refuse to take into account what the other person is telling you or the fact that maybe they wanted their hair in that particular style…especially since said person has a different texture than you.
I personally feel like if you cant do this you need to take several seats and maybe reconsider offering so called ‘advice’.
What do you think? Have you ever had an experience like this? Leave comments down below.